THE LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP

It’s the plot line of many a holiday romance tale. You’re living the dream on a beautiful island with constant sunshine. Days spent at the beach, nights spent sipping cocktails, life is great. Things couldn’t be better but then all of a sudden, along comes the man of your dreams who treats you like a princess and worships the ground you walk on. You spend all your time together, having the best adventures, creating memories and falling deeper and deeper in love. Life is perfect but then all of a sudden, you have to leave the island and your little bubble of love, heading back to your respective homes and lives.

Except this isn’t just a story, this is my life. Four incredible months with the love of my life, only spending one night apart and all of a sudden, everything has changed and we now live in different countries. It could be worse. My friends brother finally wed his childhood sweetheart after years of a long distance relationship and he still had to spend a year and a half apart from her during their honeymoon period with him in England and her in America while he waited for his spouse visa to finally be processed. In their first year of marriage, the journey across the Atlantic Ocean was made only three times. Now we’ve been home not even two weeks and the Irish sea journey has already been made once so like I said, it could be worse but that doesn’t make it any easier.

Anyone who has ever met the love of their life who is also the best friend can relate to me when I say that you want to be with them all the time and being apart is incredibly difficult. You’d think the longer you’re in the distance relationship for, the worse it gets but I believe it’s the beginning that’s the hardest. After four months spending every night together, to suddenly be alone for a week has torn me apart. Luckily, it was only the week and we were reunited, having an incredible week together. Of course, that week then comes to end and you’re back to square one, being apart all over again. Unless you’ve been in the position yourself, it’s hard to relate to and it would be impossible to understand how difficult the situation is but let me tell you, it takes a lot of strength, determination and a lot of love.

We have up til the New Year figured out with our flights back and forth booked, our diaries penned in with the maximum apart period being 9 days. We spend each morning and night on the phone often having movie dates over the phone. The key is to always make time for each other, you may be in different countries but you still have time for dates and chats. It helps to know when you’re next going to see each other and having it all planned out. Our only spanner in the works at the moment is not knowing our fate for Summer season. We’ve still got 11 days til we find out and until we know, we can’t plan further in advance.

I’m incredibly lucky to have such a wonderful man who always has time for me whether I’m near or far. I know I can trust and rely on him, feeling comfortable and loved in our relationship. He makes me feel special whether we’re in the same room or miles away. I know, with all my heart, that we can make this work and although, it is emotionally tough, seeing each other is the best thing in the world and I spend my days looking forward to seeing his smile.

Ashley, you’re my absolute world, you mean everything to me. No matter where we are or what we are doing, that will never change. You are my life partner, my soulmate and my best friend. You’re everything I wanted in a man and more than I could ever have dreamed of. I love you with all my heart and soul. I am the luckiest girl and so incredibly grateful to have you in my life. I know we can conquer all and this is just a minor obstacle. We will power through, we will be great and we will make it out the other side incredibly strong. That doesn’t make it easy but love knows no distance. My love only knows you.

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All opinions are my own and just that: opinions.

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